People don’t really like surprises.

If you’re a Service Leaver, Veteran or Reservist who is adapting to life after the military and you want to level up your leadership, my weekly emails will help you.

The idea of a surprise birthday party is in my top ten worst nightmares. Mainly because I am such a control freak and most of my friends wouldn’t dream of doing it because they know me too well.

Plus, it’s all the planning and organising that is the real fun part for me, so to take that away would really sting.

So when it comes to my work ethic and approaches to work, I am much the same – I don’t like surprises here either.

And I would explain this to my new joiners when we sit down for the induction conversation.

“I don’t like surprises because it can take time to get the help you might need in place.”

It’s better to be stood ready for the curveball with wide-open arms and a supersized catchers mitt.

So why deny your team, friends, family and colleagues the same environment?

By giving folks a heads up about what’s coming their way, allows people the time to prepare in all sorts of ways. Mentally, physically and emotionally.

That said, I have managed to survive a good old fashioned “sink or swim” moment, and I think it does me good every now and then to stretch and see my capabilities in action.

But to have to do that all the time is exhausting.

And wouldn’t it be better to have someone offer you swimming lessons first, just in case?

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  1. Dominic O'Sullivan

    Like you I like to be ready for the ‘shit’ but, we are comfortable with Ambiguity, or so the Service develops that in us even if we choose not to want it. So how do we Stand out? By surfing the ambiguity with aplomb compared to peers in the workplace?

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