Evoenix:Edits

Problem Solving

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Is all relative to person, place, time and situation.

How to solve a problem – might be resolved with an easy internet search, asking an expert or referring to a standard operating procedure.

Then there’s another dynamic at play – How you might solve a problem.

What unique perspective, worldview and imagination do you bring to the table when there’s a problem that needs solving?

Because if it were easy or standard – it would be solved already.

And we need people like you to stand up and ask the difficult questions. 

To do the hard work of test, learn, adjust and repeat.

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Purpose vs purpose

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Purpose and what we do are very interlinked – which has pros and cons.


In that, we get great satisfaction from what we do when it aligns with a purpose (little p).  But, when we solely rely on what we do to fuel how we feel we are accomplishing our own unique Purpose (big P), it can lead to dissatisfaction, disillusion and boredom.

There’s the quote:
“He who has a why to live for, can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

Often it feels more like – He/she who is asking: why in the hell am I doing this?  Can create any number of rational reasons NOT to do the very thing they need to be doing!!!!

Or, when that feeling of having a purpose is linked to a particular role or organisation. Finite projects, roles, goals, and tasks will have peaks and troughs and for things to be constantly challenging to feel that sense of accomplishment, or purpose, is exhausting.
Moreover, when the job is done – does that mean you now have no purpose?

Are you redundant?

Hell no!!!! 

By finding and living by a more infinite and universal Purpose – or WHY, will see you through the downtime, challenges and give meaning to even the most tedious of activities. I truly believe this is pivotal in living a more integrated life – especially for service leavers.

So, how might we find our Purpose and continue to nurture it during the downtimes?  To know what Your Purpose looks like for you – no matter what job you are doing?


Summer Update

My plan is… to present various webinars and classes over the Summer in the lead up to opening the Permission To Carry On Workshop in September. However, given the year we have all had with online learning and working, it is no surprise that fatigue is presenting itself. We’ve all had a really challenging year and with some restrictions lifting over the coming weeks, the Sumer hiatus will offer the opportunity to enjoy a well-deserved holiday and break from routine.

Therefore, I have made the decision to launch the webinar and class programme in September, leading up to Workshop enrolment for October. This is a much better time of year to be thinking and planning as we are used to that seasonal academic tempo.

Until then, I will be working on the content and delivery to create a joyful learning experience and set you on the front foot to success. The blogs will continue weekly and if you ever need a chat or to unpack a troublesome worry bead, please feel free to DM me on LinkedIn or book in with me via my Calendly below.

Have a wonderful Summer and see you in September – when you can start to get clear about what’s next for you and get stuff done!

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Craving Contribution and Needing Enrolment

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When folks leave the Armed Forces, I see too much inactivity and hiding because of fear of the unknown. Add on top of that, the embedded military values and culture that has been instilled in people as they evolve into the Serviceperson.  And the uncertainty of what that might look like on the other side as they reclaim agency and find a new purpose as an individual.

It got me thinking…. this is about enrolment.  The main ingredient of any change effort.

How did someone remain enrolled in the journey to become a soldier / sailor / airman in the first place?  This often requires extensive changes to behaviour, you may have to wait years to get in and then we endure and succeed in passing initial training.  There are kitbags full of fear and uncertainty, and we did it anyway.

We were committed to challenging the status quo then, so why is it such an obstacle now?

Ok, age, financial situation and mindset are going to play a huge part here.  We have more to consider now than when we joined as carefree twenty-somethings with the world at our feet. And our brains are not as malleable now.

So, how might we reverse engineer this to serve us as we leave?

What might be on offer, that is so compelling we make it the main focus?

What promise might we make to ourselves… and deliver on it?

Because maybe that initial promise was broken before and we don’t want to be disappointed again.

What are we trying to change?  And what do we really want to change?

We often forget how far we have come and a little look back at that time might be a good starting point to touch on.  Bring in some that juicy nostalgia for conscious incompetence… and that we evolved and made it through. 

Aside from the usual benefits of service life, I would assert we all signed on that dotted line because deep down we thought we were contributing to a “greater good”. 

And I am wondering whether this might be a barrier for us moving forward.  In that, being a manager at a nondescript corporate organisation just doesn’t cut it. 

Because, where’s the contribution?

Or like a debut author having a number one bestseller and now the publisher is pushing them to do it again.  It’s the pressure to perform.

What difference can we make now?  Especially, when some might feel as though they didn’t make enough of an impact whilst serving. 

How might some of us feel they failed in their military careers?  And don’t want to repeat the cycle or have a skewed understanding of sunk costs. Because whether that career was a success or not in your eyes – that time was not wasted. Your knowledge and skills would not be what they are today without that lived experience.

What is the transition for?  And what might it be for, if we could make better use of it?

If your life up to now had purpose but that’s changed for some reason, what might you give a crap about now, if you went looking for it?

You have value. You are worthy. You can stand up and serve yourself.

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Perfectionism through the eyes of an 8 year old

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When we could meet up, while I was visiting a friend and he was making a toy model with his son. My friend works away a lot and you might conjure up a beautiful image of a father and son making a model and spending quality time together.

In reality, I watched as the joy crumbled in front of my eyes.

The small boy started out very content to try things out, see if they fit and keep going until he got it right.

My friend on the other hand was behaving impatiently. He already knew what bit went where and could easily have this project finished in record time. After all, he had 30+ years of modelling experience over his 8 year old apprentice.

I witnessed the use of shame and embarrassment to bolster an adult ego.

And I felt the hurt in the small boy who just wanted to learn to build models with his parent.

My friend had to do it right the first time. There was no room for trial and error. He knew best. He wanted to show.

All the boy wanted to do was play and be seen. There was plenty of room for testing. He knew he didn’t know and tried it anyway. He wanted to learn.

This conflicting tension of “Being right” V’s “Trying to get it right” created a missed opportunity for growth, on both parts.

Given the choice, I’d pick childlike perfectionism – Everyday!

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FOMO

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Means: The Fear Of Missing Out

Feels a little too whimsical for my liking. 

Missing out on what, exactly?

How might replacing it with Opportunities shift it? 

Because sometimes, the very thing we are avoiding… is the very thing we need to be doing. 

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Progress is…

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Reflection: I did stuff this way.

Intention: Do more stuff another way.

Sometimes, it really is that simple. 

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When you can’t see leadership

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Leadership of others is very overt. We can see it and we can feel it.

But how does your leadership behave when people aren’t looking?

That story you tell yourself about why you can’t or shouldn’t do that course or apply for that job.

What does your self-governance look like when it’s just you in the room? 

You are sitting at your desk deciding what to do next and elect to check your inbox for the umpteenth time that day.

How might you serve you better? 

If you were getting it right, that sinking feeling of hopelessness would go away.

Are you really doing enough quality work?

It might be, you are merely going through the motions. 

Might it be time to reflect on all those times when you started something new? When you embraced the conscious incompetence and did it anyway. And when you got through it, you revelled in the reward of personal accomplishment.

And I would assert you were not alone during that time. You had accountability. You were on the hook and didn’t want to let people down.

So what’s changed for you now and how might you begin to change it again and move forward?

Who can help you? And have you asked them?

Because taking your self-leadership and making it visible to others not only helps them see and hear you, it keeps you on the hook and committed to progress.

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I am for…

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I am for…

The awkward lifelong learner approaching the intersection between fear and excitement.

And I love that about you, please tell me more.

Who are you for? And how might you help them?

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Adventure Campfire

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Another wonderful Adventure Campfire with a group of daring and inspirational women sharing stories about trips and travel.  We reminisced about starting something new or being somewhere different so that we can begin to get excited about starting something new in the future or keep going with a current project.

I love hearing these fascinating stories and learning about how others overcame a challenge or fear. 

Just a group of ladies chatting about life and sharing their stories. So that we can learn from each other, build our confidence and remember how brave we can be.

Because sometimes, the very thing we are avoiding… it the very thing we need to be doing. 

There’s a big difference for me between going it alone and being alone. And I am all for going it alone, I do it most days and I love it. Having all the autonomy and the only person I need to seek permission from is myself.

I also don’t like being alone. I need people around me for inspiration, challenge, energy and excitement. I need to see their success and failures and we learn from each other.

Whether it’s from behind a keyboard or in a far-flung corner of the world, you need to be able to say to someone, “Hey, remember that time when…”, and have a good laugh.

And remember how far you have come.

Where have you been and what did you learn? What did you do differently when you got home? How did it change you? How did it change the way you did something?

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The Art of Being Human

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Seeking imperfection.

Learning by doing.

Growing by failing.

Creating on purpose.

Sacrificing for others.

Choosing to change.

Managing the fear.

Practising the freedom of thinking differently.

Leading our World with integrity.

It’s all a work in progress…

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