If you’re a Service Leaver, Veteran or Reservist who is adapting to life after the military, my weekly emails will help you.
Think about it.
When was the last time you said, “I really should [insert activity]”, and it actually happened?
Then, after spending waaaay too much time and brain energy “shoulding” on yourself, one day you say,
“I want to…
… eat nice food…
… go for a walk…
… send that email…
… sign up for that course”
BOOM! It’s done!
Then, you remember how much you like it and the feeling of accomplishment, once it’s done, is AMAZING!!!
But, instead of giving yourself a well-deserved pat on the back, you commence an extensive deep dive of self-criticism and unpack all the disappointment in yourself for not acting sooner.
And once again, you are back to shoulding on yourself 💩
Intensive psychological excavation aside, what if we thought of this as just a habit?
And with practice, you can notice when the shoulding begins and stop it in its tracks.
Take the “should” and make it a “want”, then see where that leads you.
Recently, I have been deploying the 5-second rule from Mel Robbins. It is excruciating being human sometimes. But when you make work for you and take bold, small steps, the results will be quite remarkable.
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